Fwiw experience has taught me that valuable development doesn't really require diplomacy.
I remember last year arguing with David Sonstebo in the BCT IOTA thread. He was going mental and calling all of his investors retards. He was making jokes about how low everyone's iq was next to his on a daily basis, swearing and telling people to 'fek off' constantly, threatening users with refunds if they didn't apologise for questioning him etc. His sidekick come-from-beyond was only a little better, and they were both capable of a lack of professionalism that would shock anyone from the business world (that thread was like a school boy playground for the best part of a year). This thread is nowhere near the same level of childishness. I agree project teams are better off staying dispassionate in the face of criticism, it is preferable, but apparently it isn't actually necessary.
Now David and cfb have produced something useful that actually works really well, and they have successfully established some very serious business connections. I remember saying much the same as above about the project being doomed because the management was so unprofessional, I was dead wrong, this isn't like business in the real world, it's about writing code and making things that people value (and hyping them and connecting them to the mainstream). All I've seen here is evidence of passion, defensiveness and irritability, all very human characteristics and none of them really that bad in the context of writing code and making the first really user friendly DEX.
Personally I'm not actually that put off. I like that these guys have a bit of fire in them and have shown evidence of being as passionate about what SAFE offers as most of us are.
I think we got off to a bad start because things spiral when we get defensive and feel attacked. Better just to draw a line under it imo and carry on discussions about more important things than people's current emotional state of mind.